It dawned on me that I haven’t talked at all about love this month. So, as we wind down February – our month of love, I wanted to leave you with some thoughts on love languages.
What is love language? Simply put, it’s how we show our love towards others or vice versa how we like to be shown love in return. This isn’t just love with a partner/spouse, this is love for anyone - family, child, friend or colleague.
Understanding your love language and that of your spouse, if you’re married, can significantly increase your communication skills and build a stronger connection with one another. However, it can also help with effectively asking for what you need from friends, business partners, and/or colleagues. Read through the five love languages below and try to identify which one you identify with the most. Although you may feel like you fall into all five of them, you will more than likely gravitate towards one or two as your main love language.
If you still feel like you’re struggling there are many resources out there to help, including free online quizzes. My favorite one is from
The 5 Love Languages. They have a quiz for couples, children, teens, and singles. Bonus no email is required, but I totally put my email on their list because they’re also a great resource hub. Love it! Oh, and by the way, I love to give gifts, but when I took the quiz receiving gifts came up at a 0% for me. Hahaha! So I might need to spend some more time on their site to help me figure things out.
There are 5 main love languages:
1)
Words of Affirmation – showing affection with words of encouragement, appreciation, praise, and the like
Examples: writing a love letter, sending a text, saying you’re sorry, leaving a note
2) Quality Time – giving undivided time and attention
Examples: routine date nights, taking a walk together, time together away from screens (phone/TV)
3) Acts of Service – taking action over verbal expression
Examples: doing chores without being asked, running an errand, cooking a meal, etc.
4) Gifts – giving a tangible item to show you were thinking about them
Examples: flowers, souvenir or trinket, surprise (something they’ve wanted), favorite drink or candy
5) Physical Touch – showing affection with physical touch
Examples: holding hands, massage, hugging, cuddling, sex
There are 4 types of intimacy too:
1) Physical Intimacy – hugging, kissing, holding hands, sexual touch, and massages
2) Emotional Intimacy – affirming and caring and interested in each other’s feelings
3) Spiritual Intimacy – respect for each other’s beliefs, having shared purpose and nurturing one another’s inner peace
4) Mental Intimacy – having a meaningful conversation as well as shared interests and values with another person
If you’ve followed me for any amount of time you know that I’m an essential oil educator, so I want to help you in spOILing your love life with some diffuser blends based off the 5 love languages.
Enjoy!
xoDanette